Monday, June 9, 2014

You Know When The Men Are Gone by Siobhan Fallon

You Know When The Men Are Gone by Siobhan Fallon
Published January 2012 by Penguin Group
Source: bought my audio copy at my local library book sale
Narrator: Cassandra Campbell

Publisher's Summary:
In Fort Hood housing, like all army housing, you get used to hearing through the walls. You learn too much. And you learn to move quietly through your own small domain. You also know when the men are gone. No more boots stomping above, no more football games turned up too high, and, best of all, no more front doors slamming before dawn as they trudge out for their early formation, sneakers on metal stairs, cars starting, shouts to the windows above to throw them down their gloves on cold desert mornings. Babies still cry, telephones ring, Saturday morning cartoons screech, but without the men, there is a sense of muted silence, a sense of muted life.

There is an army of women waiting for their men to return to Fort Hood, Texas. As Siobhan Fallon shows in this collection of loosely interconnected short stories, each woman deals with her husband's absence differently. One wife, in an attempt to avoid thinking about the risks her husband faces in Iraq, develops an unhealthy obsession with the secret life of her neighbor. Another woman's simple trip to the PX becomes unbearable when she pulls into her Gold Star parking space. And one woman's loneliness may lead to dire consequences when her husband arrives home. In gripping, no-nonsense stories that will leave you shaken, Fallon allows you into a world tightly guarded by gates and wire. It is a place where men and women cling to the families they have created as the stress of war threatens to pull them apart.

My Thoughts:
In the weeks leading up to the publication of You Know When The Men Are Gone, reviews across the blogiverse (yes, non-bloggers, that's a word; Merriam-Webster just hasn't caught up with us yet) were singing the praises of this book. And I was certain that I was going to read it soon. But, like so many books, because it didn't land in my lap, it languished on the wish list. A few weeks ago, I found it at my local library sale. On audio, no less, narrated by the highly-esteemed Cassandra Campbell.

It is hard to believe that You Know When The Men Are Gone is Fallon's debut story collection. It is taut, unflinching, and eloquent without being sentimental. As the wife of an Army major, stationed at Fort Hood, who was twice deployed, Fallon knows what she's talking about but even if you didn't know her pedigree you'd know you were reading the real thing. I couldn't help but wonder if it might be too hard for some who are facing the same situation. Simply put, I loved it. The pain wrought by ten years of war is frightening and heartbreaking and Fallon makes it clear just how much has been sacrificed by so many.
"She carried her worry night and day. It pull at her legs and shoulders and tear ducts, always there and ready to consume her because how could anyone think rationally about a spouse in a war zone?"
I am equal parts sad that I did not read this sooner and happy that I did not read it until I could "read" it on audio. Because, wow, Cassandra Campbell is fantastic. She could have sold me on a much lesser book.

Read it, read it, read it. Just know that you may find yourself feeling the same way that Lily Burana of the Washington Post felt:
"The highest praise I can give this book—as a critic and a soldier's wife—is that it's so achingly authentic that I had to put it down and walk away at least a dozen times. At one point, I stuffed it under the love seat cushions. If Fallon ever expands her talents into a novel, I may have to hide in the closet for a month."



Sunday, June 8, 2014

Life It Goes On - June 8

Tuesday we had storms move through and just north of Omaha they had 75 mph winds with baseball-sized hail. At one car dealership, they had 4200 cars destroyed. The sirens went off here and as soon as they stopped everyone in Omaha cut out of work to try to get ahead of the storm as it headed our way. Traffic was almost at a stand still much of my way. I can't tell you how happy it made me to turn and head south and leave this behind me. Scary stuff.

Here's What I'm:

Listening To: Brazilian radio on Pandora. I'm finding it makes great background music while I'm doing other things. Something about not being able to understand the lyrics makes them blend in with the instrumental and it's less distracting for me. Plus it's fun!

Watching: All Is Lost starring Robert Redford. It's a very unusual movie in that there is almost no dialogue and Redford is the only character. So well acted and the ending left us wondering.

Reading: Chasing The Sun by Natalia Sylvester for an upcoming TLC Book Tour. Set in Peru, it's the first book I've ever read set in that country. Really enjoying it a lot.

Making: Salads with lettuce from our very own garden! Otherwise, I really haven't been very creative in the kitchen.

Planning: On continuing some landscaping changes I started this week. They got a bit derailed when I had a fifty-pound stone fall over on my foot and had to stop. That put a kibosh on my walking, too, since I couldn't get a shoe on for a few days. Ergh!

Grateful for: Cooler temps today - it has been so hot. We even had to put on jackets tonight while we were sitting around the fire on the patio.

Loving: That Miss H got to meet one of my favorite bloggers, Lori of The Coffee Girl, yesterday. Lori and I became friends through GoodReads. Both she and Miss H are huge fans of the New York Yankees. They've gotten to know each other through Facebook and when the Yankees came to Kansas City this weekend it turned out they were both going. I am, I must admit, a little jealous that I wasn't there!

Feeling: Both content and unsettled at the same time. Does that even make sense? I'm not even sure I can explain it. I'm having a hard time sitting still lately; it's made blogging and reading tough.

Looking forward to: Heading down shortly to the Omaha Summer
Arts Festival followed by an event at a local art gallery. The gallery has an exhibition by Peter Max and he will be there. If you were around in the 1960's, early 1970's, you'll remember Max's work, particularly his work with The Beatles. He's still doing work that's in the same vein although not so psychedelic. Mini-me is going with us and it's always fun to get our own artist's impression on what we're seeing.

I'm also looking forward to book club this week. Not only do we get to talk to author Tracey Garvis-Graves about her book On The Island, we will be conferencing in with another book club in New Jersey, which is lead by our former leader.

What are you looking forward to this week?

Friday, June 6, 2014

Fairy Tale Friday - In The News

Neil Gaiman fans, look what I have for you! Gaiman and artist Lorenzo Mattotti are teaming up to pair Mattotti's illustrations with Gaiman's retelling of the classic Brothers Grimm fairy tale "Hansel and Gretel."

According to Gaiman, "In order for stories to work - for kids and adults - they should scare. And you should triumph. There's no point in triumphing over evil if the evil isn't scary."

Sadly, fans will have to wait a bit longer for this one; it's scheduled to be released October 28, 2014. The book will include an historical account of the evolving tale and according to publisher, TOON Graphics.

I'm hearing good things about Disney's "Maleficent." My son went to see it the other night and really enjoyed it. When a twenty-six-year-old enjoys a movie that's I'm told is great for kids, a really family film, I'm impressed. The other thing I'm hearing is that moviegoers who are fans of the Sleeping Beauty tale should realize that this is a film built around a fairy tale. Think of something like all of those fairy tale retellings that have been coming out in book form that are far more true to the setting and style of the story than say, the Hansel and Gretel movie that came out a couple of years ago that turned them into killing machines.

Now if you're really a stickler for details, you may have noticed that the live-action Maleficent's horns don't quite match up with the animated version. Which has some people's panties in a bunch. I'm thinking it hardly matters as long as the horns made an appearance. What do you think?


My guys, in their typical fashion, are more prone to compare live-action Maleficent's horns to Tim, The Enchanter from Monty Python's "Holy Grail." I'm thinking Jolie is slightly more attractive.


Thursday, June 5, 2014

The Husband's Secret by Liane Moriarty

The Husband's Secret by Liane Moriarty
Published July 2013 by Amy Einhorn/Putnam
Source: my copy courtesy of the publisher in exchange for an honest review

Publisher's Summary:
Imagine that your husband wrote you a letter, to be opened after his death.  Imagine, too, that the letter contains his deepest, darkest secret—something with the potential to destroy not just the life you built together, but the lives of others as well. Imagine, then, that you stumble across that letter while your husband is still very much alive. . . .

Cecilia Fitzpatrick has achieved it all—she’s an incredibly successful businesswoman, a pillar of her small community, and a devoted wife and mother. Her life is as orderly and spotless as her home. But that letter is about to change everything, and not just for her: Rachel and Tess barely know Cecilia—or each other—but they too are about to feel the earth-shattering repercussions of her husband’s secret.

My Thoughts:
That secret? It comes out relatively early in the book and won't come as a terribly big surprise when it does. But the book's not really about John Paul's secret. It's about marriage, family, love, temptation, guilt, grief and discovering what you would do if you thought everything you had could be lost in an instant.

Some of The Husband's Secret is a bit predictable, some of it is a bit over the top, and some of it while make you want to shake some of the women. But it made me think. What would you do if doing the right thing meant your children's lives would be forever changed for the worse? What would you do if you thought the police would never arrest the person you were sure murdered your child? Could you forgive the betrayal of those you are closest to? There is a lot of darkness in the book but Moriarty mixes in some wit, the story of Pandora's box, and the history of the Berlin Wall (which, surprisingly, does not feel out of place at all). I raced through this book, eager to find out how the lives of each of these women would work out, caring as much about these characters as Moriarty clearly does.

Book clubs, The Husband's Secret is a terrific book club read - so much to discuss!

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Life: It Goes On - June 1

Happy 56th wedding anniversary to my parents today! Things I have learned from them: a) marriage is a partnership, b) it's okay to fight sometimes as long as there are more times that you are treating each other with respect and love, c) sometimes life is hard but you work through it and move on, d) family is everything. The Big Guy and I have been blessed to have both of our sets of parents as marvelous examples of marriage to mold our own marriage on - probably why we've made it almost 32 years now! Love you two!

Here's What I'm:

Listening To: What Is The What by Dave Eggers - so good! Love the narrator. I have a hard time making myself get out of the car when my journey is done.

Watching: Looking forward to the season premiere of Longmire on A & E tomorrow night. Thanks to BG's brother for turning us on to this show. The show is based on the "Walt Longmire" series written by Craig Johnson. I really need to try the book series as well.

Reading: Blew through Lisa O'Donnell's Closed Doors this week; one of my favorite books of the year. I'm starting On The Island today for a special book club meeting next week then I'll start Natalia Sylvester's Chasing The Sun for another TLC Book Tour.

Making: Turquoise trophies! You know those trophies your kids get just for being on a team? A couple of months ago, I cleaned all of those out of Miss H's closet but I got to looking at them and thought they might be fun painted. They haven't found a permanent home yet but I'm kind of loving them.

Planning: On spending today cleaning out the garage. This is BG's realm but when I can no longer get to things I need out there, it's time for an intervention. Arguments will ensue - I believe there is a limit to the number of rags you need to wash a car; BG does not.

Grateful for: Air conditioning. Seriously, it's been in the upper 80's with humidity even higher than that. I do not need to be sweating just trying to keep the house picked up.

Loving: Having a weekend with nothing on the agenda. I've had time to get things done around here and hit up the flea market and a couple of Goodwill stores. No great finds, though.

Feeling: Annoyed with whichever critter in my backyard decided to eat the strawberries that had just ripened. A barrier will be made today to protect them; not sure why this was never an issue last year.

Looking forward to: Harvesting my first crop of lettuce today!