Sunday, July 8, 2018

Life: It Goes On - July 8

I think we are about to the end of people shooting off fireworks here after thirteen days, only ten of them when it was legal to shoot off fireworks. I find that I have become quite the Fourth of July grouch these days; I really don't like get-togethers where there are all ages of people out in the street lighting off explosives. This anxiety-ridden old lady can't handle the stress so I'm glad to have this week over. Although I did enjoy having that day off in the middle of the week!

Last Week I:

Listened To: More show tunes, especially 1776 in keeping with the holiday, as well as my Spotify playlist of hits from the 1970's and 1980's that I love. That last made an excellent soundtrack while I worked on the garage yesterday. It's amazing how much music can influence your mood and energy level!




Watched: I had the house to myself last night so I got to pick what to watch. It's possible that I may not have the best judgment - I watched two movies and neither was great. I watched Set It Up (starring Taye Diggs and Lucy Lui) which was fairly cute but predictable then Brain On Fire (based on the book by Suzanna Cahalan) which was so disappointing. Cahalan's book is based on her real life experience when she contracted a very rare autoimmune disease which was misdiagnosed as a mental disorder for weeks. The book was so good and terrifying. The movie was so bland.

Read: Remember last week when I said that reading Jo Nesbo's Macbeth was work? It must have been that same day when something clicked and I ended up really enjoying it a lot and racing to finish it. Now I'm reading The Roanoke Girls for book club, which should be a quick read. After that, I'll pick up something from my summer reading list but I don't know what that will be yet.

Made: Macaroni salad and red velvet cupcakes for the Fourth. Otherwise, we've been pretty much sticking to salads. Or eating out.

Enjoyed: Friday evening at Benson First Friday. Benson is a former small town that was swallowed up by Omaha decades ago and which has become one of the top spots in town for bars, restaurants, and bands. We're much to old to be hanging out later on a Friday evening but we did enjoy happy hour on a rooftop deck, an art show, great pizza, and ice cream in one of my fave places. We'd have liked to do more shopping in some of the unique shops in the area but, sadly, they weren't savvy enough to stay open later for the crowds.

This Week I’m: 

Planning: On finishing the clean up of the garage. Realistically, this is a two-person job; but if BG helps me, then nothing gets thrown out.

Thinking About: All of the great tweets I read on Twitter this past week under hashtag #SecondCivilWar. This all started after Alex Jones (InfoWars) announced that the Democrats were planning to start a second civil war last week. If you haven't read any of these tweets yet, I highly recommend them. So many are so well done and they are just as likely to be self-deprecating as they are to be on the attack against Trump supporters. Many references to being low on rations and requesting that their beloveds send avocado and quinoa.
My love,
 Rations are growing scarce. Quinoa hasn't been seen in days, and they're only giving the gluten free food to those who actually need it. These are lean times indeed.
 Ever yours, Thomas
#SecondCivilWarLetter #SecondCivilWar 
Feeling: Like I'd like to take today just for fun things. That's not going to happen. Time to get productive.

Looking forward to: Finally getting my front door painted. After all this time, we have finally settled on a color. It's not what you'll guess, given the colors I've talked about before. Pictures when we're finished.

Question of the week: For those of you battling summer's heat, what ways are you finding to beat the heat?

Friday, July 6, 2018

My Summer Reading List


Well, June's already behind us so it may be a little late for a summer reading list but I've only just reached the point when I have no books for review that need to be read for the next couple of months so now's the time to think about what I want to read off my shelves. I only wish it were on a beach like in this picture!

In no particular order, and with no illusions that I will definitely get to all of these, here's what I'm putting on my list:

1. The Roanoke Girls by Amy Engel (book club selection for July)
2. Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi (book club selection for August)
3. Auntie Mame by Patrick Dennis (may just have to watch the movie again as well!)
4. Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens (did just watch the movie again of this one)
5. Paris For One by Jojo Moyes
6. All The Single Ladies by Rebecca Traister
7. Love, Water, Memory by Jennie Shortridge
8. One True Thing by Anna Quindlen

Let's be honest, there's a reasonable chance other books will catch my eye between now and the end of summer. Hopefully, with two readathons coming up this month, I might even get to more books than this!

Thursday, July 5, 2018

You Think It, I'll Say It by Curtis Sittenfield

You Think It, I'll Say It by Curtis Sittenfeld
Published April 2018 by Random House Publishing
Source: my ecopy courtesy of the publisher, through Netgalley, in exchange for an honest review

Publisher's Summary:
A suburban mother of two fantasizes about the downfall of an old friend whose wholesome lifestyle empire may or may not be built on a lie. A high-powered lawyer honeymooning with her husband is caught off guard by the appearance of the girl who tormented her in high school. A shy Ivy League student learns the truth about a classmate’s seemingly enviable life.

Throughout the ten stories in You Think It, I’ll Say It, Sittenfeld upends assumptions about class, relationships, and gender roles in a nation that feels both adrift and viscerally divided.

With moving insight and uncanny precision, Curtis Sittenfeld pinpoints the questionable decisions, missed connections, and sometimes extraordinary coincidences that make up a life. Indeed, she writes what we’re all thinking—if only we could express it with the wit of a master satirist, the storytelling gifts of an old-fashioned raconteur, and the vision of an American original.

My Thoughts:
I liked this collection right from the first story, a story in which the main character gets caught up in a  game called "I'll Think It, You Say It" that leads her down a path to obsession over a man who isn't her husband. "...alarmingly, I'll Think It, You Say It left her as cheerful and energized as a Zumba class." Julie is a woman who has settled into her family's life in the suburbs; the attention of another man makes her feel alive again.
"It wasn't that talking to Graham had made her feel lovestruck, not remotely, not then. It was more that it had made her feel big-boomed, curly-haired, high-spirited, and Jewish. Even if it was only by that point symbolic rather than literal, it had made her feel like herself."
This is a solid collection of stories about relationships of all kinds. Like all short story collections, I liked some of the stories better than others but more as a matter of preference than that any of the stories were weaker than others. Many had interesting twists which I won't share with you because I don't want to spoil anything. There's an interesting story that I can't help but think took Ree Drummond, Pioneer Woman, as a launch point. Some stories are about friendships, some are about marriages, some are about both. There was one story were I was highlighting like crazy because I was trying to figure out if there were editing errors that weren't, in fact, errors. If you do read this collection, I'd love if you can tell me if you figure out which story this was that exposed my prejudice.

If I find a flaw in Sittenfeld's writing it's that her writing can come off as elitist. In the above story, it seems clear she feels like the suburbs are the place people go to lose themselves but not in the good way. In another story she writes: "As if Bill and Barbara Adams of Traverse City, Michigan, even grasp what Uber is." I don't live in Traverse City, Michigan, but I know people who grew up there and I'm fairly certain that it's not the isolated outpost Sittenfeld seems to be insinuating. Little jabs like that can gnaw at me and turn my opinion about a book.

Fortunately, there was enough I liked about this collection for me to overlook those little jabs. I tend to have such mixed feelings about short story collections and often come away from them feeling like I wanted more from many of the stories or that there were too many weak stories to recommend the book. This is a collection that has left me thinking I'd like to read more short stories and that's a good thing.




Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Happy Fourth of July!



Every year, for the past 43 years, my parent's neighbors have gathered on the morning of the Fourth of July for a celebratory breakfast. Everyone dons their patriotic finest, brings food to share, and enjoys the companionship of their fellow Eastridgians (yeah, yeah, I'm making up words here). And nearly every one of those 43 years, my dad (who, along with my mom, started this tradition) stands and reminds everyone why they are gathered together on this day. This year he has graciously agreed to allow me to share his talk. Enjoy!

"There are three grand monuments to individual men in Washington D.C. One of those is The Washington Monument, another is the Lincoln Memorial, and the third is the Thomas Jefferson Memorial. In the third one, a 19' bronze statue of Jefferson stands in the center of a classical, circular, domed colonnade. In the spring, standing as it does among the cherry blossoms, it may be the most beautiful place in the city.

Thomas Jefferson stands out in our history for several things. He was the third President of the U.S. and the first to break the grip on power of the Federalists, who believed that the government should always be in the hands of the rich, the possessors of a lot of property, and those who were "well-born." He wrote the Virginia Statue of Religious Freedom, which guaranteed freedom of religion in Virginia to people of all religious faiths, including Christians of all denominations, Jews, Muslims, Hindus. And he authorized the doubling in size of the United States by buying the Louisiana Purchase.

But Jefferson stands above all the great American men and women, for whom there are not such grand monuments as those three above, for one thing above all others - the Declaration of Independence. It's that declaration, of course, that's the foundation of this breakfast tradition of ours. On July 4, 1776, the Continental Congress, having voted in favor of American separation from England on July 2, put its final touches on the explanation for that separation, passed it, and sent it out to the printers. On July 4, 1976 - 200 years later - the first edition of this breakfast took place next door, in my wife's and my back yard.

The first 4th of July breakfast -
my mom is standing
I'm interested this morning in the background of that Declaration. Near the end of his life, Jefferson explained his goal in writing it. He said that he'd intended "Not to find out new principles, or new arguments, never before thought of, not merely to say things which had never been said before; but to place before mankind the common sense of the subject, in terms so plain and firm as to command their assent...Neither aiming at originality of principle or sentiment, nor yet copied from any particular or previous writing, it was intended to be an expression of the American mind, and to give that expression the proper tone and spirit call for by the occasion."

Jean-Jacques Rousseau, John Locke, George Mason
And he certainly did not achieve originality of principle or sentiment. You Wouldn't have to browse with Google for very long to find the same arguments put forward in nearly the same words by the Frenchman Rousseau, the Englishman John Locke, Jefferson's contemporary George Mason, and others.

So if Jefferson borrowed freely from the ideas of others, why is his great work so revered as to put him in the center of that striking monument in our nation's capital? My argument to you is that he wrote those ideas more beautifully than the other guys. And, at the same time, in language that could be understood by many more than the rich, the well-born, and those with university educations.

Many of you know that the longest section of the Declaration is just a list of complaints against King George III of England: He has imposed "taxes upon us without our sent," he has deprived us "in many cases, of the benefit of Trial by Jury," "He has plundered our seas, ravaged our coasts, burnt our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people." And so on and so on.

Following the list of grievances, Jefferson wrote that the colonists had tried many times to settle these matters while still remaining good Englishmen themselves. But that had failed and so now the Americans were declaring "That these united Colonies are, and of Right out to be Free and Independent States, that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown..."

But the complaints and the pledge are really no more than a lawyer's argument. What makes Jefferson stand out, what earns him that beautiful monument is the second section, in which he lays out the philosophy of the thing, what it is that Americans believe that makes everything else valid in their minds. And, yes, he was not, as he wrote years later, "aiming at originality of principle or sentiment." He just set it all out more skillfully than had Rousseau, Locke, or anyone else.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. — That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, — That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government...

We're here this morning, of course, for the fellowship, the food, and the tradition. But were it not for those ringing words, we'd probably all be sitting right now in our respective homes, waiting for the picnics, the swimming, the boating, the family times, the fireworks, and whatever else we may have planning door the day. So thanks for yet one more thing Thomas Jefferson."  - Ed Kemble



Sunday, July 1, 2018

Life: It Goes On - July 1

It's July! How can it be July already? And how could Mini-me and Ms. S have celebrated their one-year anniversary yesterday? You probably still feel like it was only yesterday that I was going on and on about the wedding plans. I feel that way as well! What a great year they have had and it's fun to watch them (albeit from afar) as they launch the next phase of their lives. Can't wait to get up to Rochester to see their new place and explore their new area.

Last Week I:

Listened To: Lots of Broadway tunes in my car which lead me down the rabbit hole of listening to musicals at home. Caught a number from the musical Nine which had me waxing nostalgic - when The Big Guy and I went on our honeymoon in 1983, we saw this in the very theater that Hamilton's been playing in. Wishing I could find the full soundtrack somewhere. Also wish we had been there a couple of months earlier so we could have seen Raul Julia in the lead. But these then very young Midwestern kids have never forgotten Anita Morris in her very sexy role!

Watched: Baseball, a lot of junk just so we could have the local channels on to track the weather, and some episodes of The Crown.

Read: I'm working on Jo Nesbo's Macbeth. You'll notice I chose the work "working." It's not a bad book, it's just not what I'm in the mood for right now. But I need to get it finished before it archives on Netgalley so I can get the review posted there.

Made: I'm trying to eat less sugar so I haven't been baking. Also, it's hot and we have a ton of lettuce (perhaps literally!) so we've been eating salads almost every night.

Enjoyed: Won't You Be My Neighbor - the story of Mr. Roger's Neighborhood and Fred Roger's impact on American children. I'm not gonna lie - I have been known to mock Mr. Rogers. Never again. I had no idea how revolutionary that mild-mannered man was for his time. For example, this scene where he and Officer Clemmons both had their feet in a wading pool at a time when swimming pools were segregated.

This Week I’m: 

Planning: The calendar's pretty clear this week. With the holiday right in the middle of the week, I think it will be more of a reading week than a big project kind of week.

Thinking About: Have you ever heard the song, "Wives and Lovers" by Frank Sinatra? I heard it for the first time on Sirius' Frank Sinatra station the other day. I'm under no illusions that Sinatra was a feminist but are you kidding me with this stuff?!

Feeling: Bummed. I had intended to go to an rally for keeping family's together but my bum knee was acting up and I knew it couldn't handle the walking and standing. Had to comfort myself by making donations.

Looking forward to: Hopefully seeing my kiddos in a couple of weeks!

Question of the week: How will you celebrate the Fourth?