Monday, December 29, 2025

Mini-reviews: Ejaculate Responsibly, The Borrowed Life of Frederick Fife, The Bright Years, Our Spoons Came From Woolworths

 More mini-reviews in a mad rush to be able to start 2026 all caught up!

Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way To Think About Abortion by Gabrielle Blair
Read by Gabrielle Blair
3 hours, 8 minutes
Published October 2022 by Workman Publishing Group

Publisher's Summary: 

IEjaculate Responsibly, Gabrielle Blair offers a provocative reframing of the abortion issue in post-Roe America. In a series of 28 brief arguments, she deftly makes the case for moving the abortion debate away from*controlling and legislating women's bodies and instead directs the focus on men's lack of accountability in preventing unwanted pregnancies. 

Highly readable, accessible, funny, and unflinching, Blair builds her argument by walking readers through the basics of fertility (men are 50 times more fertile than women), the unfair burden placed on women when it comes to preventing pregnancy (90% of the birth control market is for women), the wrongheaded stigmas around birth control for men (condoms make sex less pleasurable, vasectomies are scary and emasculating), and the counterintuitive reality that men, who are fertile 100% of the time, take little to no responsibility for preventing pregnancy.

The result is a compelling and convincing case for placing the responsibility-and burden-of preventing unwanted pregnancies away from women and onto men.

My Thoughts: 
Don't look at that one word in the title and decide this isn't a book for you. In fact, if that word bothers you, there's even more reason to read this book. Blair (who I follow on Instagram for many reasons), has written a book full of ways the number of abortions can be vastly reduced. It's eye-opening and well-reasoned and I really wish the people who need to read and heed would do just that. I definitely recommend it, but you might want to hide the cover if you don't want people in the doctor's office waiting room to look at you strangely. 

The Borrowed Life of Frederick Fife by Anna Johnston
Read by Tim Carroll 
10 hours, 49 minutes
Published September 2024 by HarperCollins

Publisher's Summary: 

“Would you mind terribly, old boy, if I borrowed the rest of your life? I promise I'll take excellent care of it.”

Frederick Fife was born with an extra helping of kindness in his heart. If he borrowed your car, he'd return it washed with a full tank of gas. The problem is, at age eighty-two, there's nobody left in Fred's life to borrow from, and he's broke and on the brink of eviction.But Fred's luck changes when he's mistaken for Bernard Greer, a missing resident at the local nursing home, and takes his place. Now Fred has warm meals in his belly and a roof over his head-as long as his look-alike Bernard never turns up.

Denise Simms is stuck breathing the same disappointing air again and again. A middle-aged mom and caregiver at Bernard's facility, her crumbling marriage and daughter's health concerns are suffocating her joy for life. Wounded by her two-faced husband, she vows never to let a man deceive her again.

As Fred walks in Bernard's shoes, he leaves a trail of kindness behind him, fueling Denise's suspicions about his true identity. When unexpected truths are revealed, Fred and Denise rediscover their sense of purpose and learn how to return a broken life to mint condition.

My Thoughts: 
I learned about this book at my local library's annual Book Bash and I will say that the premise that sold me on picking it up lives up to my expectations. It is a unique idea that is the "feel-good...novel about grief, redemption, forgiveness and finding family" that the publisher's summary proclaims it. Unfortunately, it's not quite a clever as they also proclaim it. 

Being as the lead character is male, Johnston seems to have felt like she needed to throw some things in that made it feel more like a story a man has told - there are so many references to farts, peeing, and other bodily functions, most of which could have easily been left out. It does require that readers suspend disbelief (which, for the most part, I was willing to do), but it also gets repetitive frequently. Overall, I enjoyed it; it just required my forgiving the faults I found. 

The Bright Years by Sarah Damoff
Read by Ferdelle Capistrano, Joy Osmanski, and Lee Osorio
8 hours, 50 minutes
Published April 2025 by Simon and Schuster

Publisher's Summary: 
Ryan and Lillian Bright are deeply in love, recently married, and now parents to a baby girl, Georgette. But Lillian has a son she hasn't told Ryan about, and Ryan has an alcohol addiction he hasn't told Lillian about, so Georgette comes of age watching their marriage rise and fall.

When a shocking blow scatters their fragile trio, Georgette tries to distance herself from reminders of her parents. Years later, Lillian's son comes searching for his birth family, so Georgette must return to her roots, unearth her family's history, and decide whether she can open up to love for them-or herself-while there's still time.

Told from three intimate points of view, The Bright Years is a tender, true-to-life debut that explores the impact of each generation in a family torn apart by tragedy but, over time, restored by the power of grace and love.

My Thoughts: 
This one suffered, for me, from having had my listening broken up by several weeks. To the point where it took me a good 20 minutes, when I got it loaned again, to remember that I'd even started it before. I think if I would have listened to it straight through, it would have been a book I would have liked a lot more. Which is not to say that I didn't like it; I did. 

The characters are interesting, the relationships feel real, and I liked (even though I didn't think I would when the last narrator began), the way Damoff finished the book. This book is much more a novel about grief, redemption, forgiveness and finding family than is The Borrowed Life of Frederick Fife. I would definitely recommend it for book clubs - so much to discuss! 

Our Spoons Came From Woolworths by Barbara Comyns
224 pages
Published 1950 by Eyre and Spottiswoode originally

Publisher's Summary: 
“I told Helen my story and she went home and cried.” So begins Our Spoons Came from Woolworths. But Barbara Comyns’s beguiling novel is far from tragic, despite the harrowing ordeals its heroine endures. 

Sophia is twenty-one and naïve when she marries fellow artist Charles. She seems hardly fonder of her husband than she is of her pet newt; she can’t keep house (everything she cooks tastes of soap); and she mistakes morning sickness for the aftereffects of a bad batch of strawberries. England is in the middle of the Great Depression, and the money Sophia makes from the occasional modeling gig doesn’t make up for her husband’s indifference to paying the rent. Predictably, the marriage falters; not so predictably, Sophia’s artlessness will be the very thing that turns her life around.

My Thoughts: 
First published in 1950 and set in the 1930's, this is the kind of British book that's become a modern classic, even if you've never heard of it. It's also largely autobiographical, which I was not aware of until I was pulling the information about the book. In many ways that makes the book even more poignant. 

Sophia really is quite naive through most of the book, particularly vulnerable to society's mores and the belief that Charles isn't the bum he actually is. When Sophia gets pregnant, she is no longer able to work (because it's the 1930's and just not done, for the most part), throwing their little family into poverty. Charles doesn't want the baby and is the terrible father you'd expect. Sophia hungers for someone who cares, throwing her into an ill-advised affair. As terrible as things get for Sophia, as the publisher says, things turn around for her, just as I'd hoped they would. Thanks for the recommendation, Ann Patchett! 

Sunday, December 28, 2025

Life: It Goes On - December 28

Happy Sunday! It's winter here today - the white so many wished for at Christmas that I was glad to have done without. A cold front blew in last night bringing with it wind, sleet and snow. Glad that it waited until all of my people were home from their travels safely. Hoping yours are as well! 

We've had quite the busy week. Sunday through Tuesday was spent in preparations - far busier than it normally would have been but I was so far behind on getting things done. Wednesday we had both of our local(ish) kids and their significant others here to celebrate Christmas; Miss H and Mr. L stayed until midday Christmas Day. Friday my aunt and uncle came for a visit in the afternoon and later my brother and sister-in-law came to spend the night on their way to her family home to celebrate Christmas with them. Saturday the Big Guy's siblings and their spouses came to town for our annual holiday dinner out. Thoroughly enjoyed seeing everyone; but I'm ready for some quiet time and to get back to a normal routine. 

Last Week I: 

Listened To: Mostly Christmas music, but I did also start Lara Prescott's The Secrets We Keep


Watched: All of our favorite Christmas movies, as well as our usual episodes of Only Murders In The Building. We're a few episodes into Season 5 and I'm not enjoying it as much as I have the other episodes. 


Read: I'm sorry to report that I didn't pick up a single book all week. 


Made: Twice-baked potatoes to go with our ham dinner, homemade sugar cookies because the kids insisted on doing our annual cookie frosting, homemade ice cream (although I was scolded for not also making the homemade chocolate sauce that I usually make with it), an egg and green chilies casserole, coffeecake, and sausage bites (Red Lobster biscuit mix, ground sausage and cheese). 


Enjoyed: In addition to the Christmas festivities and time with so much family, we took my brother and sister-in-law to hear a band Friday night and met up with friends there. 
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This Week I’m:  


Planning: Christmas will gradually start coming down this week. Whilst I'm eager to get MY chair back into the family room, I will miss the glow of the Christmas tree lights so taking the trees down will probably be the last thing I do. 


Thinking About: Our family is not big but we are very close, with a lot of family holiday traditions and I do love to give gifts so opening them is always an event. But it's hard to get used to having to share my kids with other families over the holidays and trying to get all of the things done in half the time we used to have. It was a little overwhelming for Mr. L, who was spent Christmas with us for the first time. 


Feeling: Like today is a good day to not do much other than to finally pick up a book and try to knock one last book out before the new year. 


Looking forward to: I think the only thing on our calendar for this week is a hair appointment. We don't even have New Year's Eve plans at this point! 


Question of the week: How were your holidays? I hope you got to spend them in exactly the way you wanted to spend them, with people you love. 

Monday, December 22, 2025

Life: It Goes On - December 22


Happy Monday! It is decidedly un-Christmasy outside here. A very few little piles remain of our snows a week or so ago, but they will likely be gone by Christmas Day since our temps are forecast to be in the 40's. That's all good with me - means my kids can travel safely and get here so we can be together (at least as together as we can be when two of us live in Alaska). I still have so much to get done before they arrive - food to finish up, cleaning to do and absolutely nothing is wrapped yet! I have this week off so it will all get done but it will be a busy couple of days - more book listening to than book reading.  

Last Week I: 

Listened To: I finished The Borrowed Life of Frederick Fife by Anna Johnston and The Bright Years by Sarah Damoff. I had started the Damoff book some weeks ago but then the loan got returned. When I finally got it again, I was so confused as to why it was starting 2/3 of the way through it - I had completely forgotten than I had started it! Today I will start Lara Prescott's The Secrets We Keep.


Watched: Lots of sports (volleyball, college basketball, college and pro football), The Voice, and we finished season four of Only Murders In The Building. Plus so many Christmas movies and shows! 


Read: I'm currently reading Maria Semple's Go Gentle. 


Made: Chex mix, puppy chow, Bavarian mints, taco soup - all things to prep for the kids being here. 


Enjoyed: It's been a busy week with lots to enjoy - book club holiday party Tuesday, work party for our team Wednesday where we rode a trolley around to look at Christmas lights, Saturday we went downtown to look at lights and have dinner, and last night we had dinner with friends at their house. 

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This Week I’m:  


Planning: The goal is to finish up all of the cooking and last minute gift buying today then wrapping tomorrow. After that, it's about enjoying all of this work with lots of fun to look forward to throughout the week. 


Thinking About: How I never want to find myself this far behind again! 


Feeling: Even though I'm way behind, I'm feeling content. It will all be fine. 


Looking forward to: Having the kids here for a couple of days, a concert with friends Friday, and dinner with the Big Guy's siblings and spouses Saturday night. 


Question of the week: How are you all doing on getting things ready? 

Thursday, December 18, 2025

Mini-reviews: Death of A Smuggler, Book of Gothel, Searching for Sylvie Lee, The Wife Upstairs

It's time to get caught up on reviews, but there are so many to do now that I'm just going to have to do mini-reviews in groups. We'll start with four and see if I can get these all caught up by the end of the year!

Death of a Smuggler by M. C. Beaton and R. W. Green
6 hours, 34 minutes
Read by David Monteath
Published February 2025 by Grand Central Publishing

Publisher's Summary: 
All Hamish Macbeth wants is a quiet life in his peaceful home in the Highland village of Lochdubh. But when his newly-assigned constable arrives, he presents Hamish with a surprise and a secret. Getting to the bottom of the secret becomes the least of Hamish's problems when he meets a family who have a score to settle with a sinister man who has mysteriously gone missing. Discovering a murdered woman's body puts further pressure on Hamish, especially when it becomes clear that the murdered woman and the missing man are linked...

My Thoughts: 
Maybe I've just read/listened to enough of the Hamish MacBeth books that they've just lost their charm. Maybe it's the fact that it's a new writer. Maybe this one just wasn't as good. I'm not sure and it's been more than two months since I read it. It felt more convoluted than previous books and lacking the charm that I'd originally liked in these books. Or maybe I'm feeling like Lochdubh is a really dangerous place to be and I no longer understand why anyone would live there. 

Book of Gothic: Memoir of a Witch by Mary McMyne
13 hours, 30 minutes
Read by Vanessa Johansson
Published September 2023 by Orbit

Publisher's Summary: 
Haelewise has always lived under the shadow of her mother, Hedda-a woman who will do anything to keep her daughter protected. For with her strange black eyes and even stranger fainting spells, Haelewise is shunned by her village, and her only solace lies in the stories her mother tells of child-stealing witches, of princes in wolf-skins, of an ancient tower cloaked in mist, where women will find shelter if they are brave enough to seek it.

Then, Hedda dies, and Haelewise is left unmoored. With nothing left for her in her village, she sets out to find the legendary tower her mother used to speak of-a place called Gothel, where Haelewise meets a wise woman willing to take her under her wing.

But Haelewise is not the only woman to seek refuge at Gothel. It's also a haven for a girl named Rika, who carries with her a secret the Church strives to keep hidden. A secret that reveals a dark world of ancient spells and murderous nobles behind the world Haelewise has always known...


My Thoughts: 
I haven't read a good fairy tale retelling in a long time; and while this one had witch in the title and you all know how I feel about magic and witches in my books, I figured it was worth a shot. 

The reader was good, there were some really interesting ideas in this one that kept my attention. But I also felt like there was just too much going on, that the ending was a bit disappointing, and there wasn't enough of a tie to Rapunzel to really make it a back story for that fairy tale. If you're a fan of witches and fantasy, with a touch of feminism thrown in, you might enjoy this one more than I did. 

Searching For Sylvie Lee by Jean Kwok
12 hours, 9 minutes
Read by Angela Lin, Samantha Quad, Caroline McLaughlin
Published December 2020 by HarperCollins

Publisher's Summary: 

It begins with a mystery. Sylvie, the beautiful, brilliant, successful older daughter of the Lee family, flies to the Netherlands for one final visit with her dying grandmother-and then vanishes.

Amy, the sheltered baby of the Lee family, is too young to remember a time when her parents were newly immigrated and too poor to keep Sylvie. Seven years older, Sylvie was raised by a distant relative in a faraway, foreign place, and didn't rejoin her family in America until age nine. Timid and shy, Amy has always looked up to her sister, the fierce and fearless protector who showered her with unconditional love.

But what happened to Sylvie? Amy and her parents are distraught and desperate for answers. Sylvie has always looked out for them. Now, it's Amy's turn to help. Terrified yet determined, Amy retraces her sister's movements, flying to the last place Sylvie was seen. But instead of simple answers, she discovers something much more valuable: the truth. Sylvie, the golden girl, kept painful secrets . . . secrets that will reveal more about Amy's complicated family-and herself-than she ever could have imagined.

A deeply moving story of family, secrets, identity, and longing, Searching for Sylvie Lee is both a gripping page-turner and a sensitive portrait of an immigrant family. It is a profound exploration of the many ways culture and language can divide us and the impossibility of ever truly knowing someone-especially those we love.

My Thoughts: 
This one was a Read With Jenna pick but I didn't pick it because of that. I picked it because it was an audiobook that was available when I needed something and it gave me some diversity in my reading. Bush Hager calls this a "true beach read." I've gotta say that I think of beach reads as something lighter, but perhaps for her it had to do with it being a book she just couldn't put down. I didn't have that same reaction. 

I did feel like I learned a lot about other cultures and there were certainly plenty of a-ha moments in this one that I didn't see coming. I can certainly see why it would be a good choice for a book club - there is a lot to discuss here: migrants, different cultures, sibling relationships, family relationships, mysteries to be solved. But it's a book that starts sad and just stays that way. Perhaps my feelings about this one had more to do with me than the book. 

The Wife Upstairs by Rachel Hawkins
8 hours, 57 minutes
Read by Emily Shaffer, Kirby Heyborne, Lauren Fortgang
Published November 2021 by St. Martin's Publishing Group

Publisher's Summary: 
Meet Jane. Newly arrived to Birmingham, Alabama, Jane is a broke dog-walker in Thornfield Estates--a gated community full of McMansions, shiny SUVs, and bored housewives. The kind of place where no one will notice if Jane lifts the discarded tchotchkes and jewelry off the side tables of her well-heeled clients. Where no one will think to ask if Jane is her real name.

But her luck changes when she meets Eddie Rochester. Recently widowed, Eddie is Thornfield Estates' most mysterious resident. His wife, Bea, drowned in a boating accident with her best friend, their bodies lost to the deep. Jane can't help but see an opportunity in Eddie--not only is he rich, brooding, and handsome, he could also offer her the kind of protection she's always yearned for.

Yet as Jane and Eddie fall for each other, Jane is increasingly haunted by the legend of Bea, an ambitious beauty with a rags-to-riches origin story, who launched a wildly successful southern lifestyle brand. How can she, plain Jane, ever measure up? And can she win Eddie's heart before her past--or his--catches up to her?

With delicious suspense, incisive wit, and a fresh, feminist sensibility, The Wife Upstairs flips the script on a timeless tale of forbidden romance, ill-advised attraction, and a wife who just won't stay buried. In this vivid reimagining of one of literature's most twisted love triangles, which Mrs. Rochester will get her happy ending?

My Thoughts: 
This one was another case of my interest being piqued by a book that claimed to be a retelling of a story, a classic I've read several times. I'm not opposed to the idea that maybe Jane isn't the innocent that she was in Bronte version. Or that we're going to get a whole new image of Rochester and Bertha (the literal wife upstairs). But the names of the characters, the fact that Rochester is keeping his wife locked upstairs, and that a fire will end it all is as far as Hawkins gets to working from Charlotte Bronte's novel, which was disappointing. The disappointment didn't end there - the reason Bertha is locked away is preposterous, the big secret Jane was keeping that caused her no end of trouble turned out to be a big yawn, and not a one of the characters developed beyond what they were when the novel began. 

Monday, December 8, 2025

Life: It Goes On - December 8


Happy Monday! I swear, one of these days there will be regular posts and even reviews on this blog again. Maybe even this week, although I'm not making any promises, knowing what my to-do list looks like. How are you all doing with getting ready for the holidays? I am so far behind this year. Gifts have not gotten sent to Alaska, Christmas cards have not been ordered, decorating is not done. Although I am getting close on that last one, after spending the weekend working on it. I got a new tree this year to replace my flocked tree; I was so over the mess of that one. I thought this new tree would be quick and easy to set up. Not so much, primarily because I got what I paid for, but I knew how to make it look better. It just took three hours to make it happen. Why do I do things that make my life harder?! 

Last Week I: 

Listened To: I finished Liz Moore's The Unseen World and started Suleika Jaouad's Between Two Kingdoms. Jaouad is married to musician Jon Batiste, but published this book about her battle with leukemia prior to having met him. 


Watched: So much volleyball! Our Huskers are looking so good and we have high hopes this year. Again. 


Read: Struggled finding something that could keep my attention, so I went for something light and fluffy - Bridget Jones Mad About The Boy. A fast read that doesn't require too much thought. 


Made: Turkey pot pie with leftover turkey we'd frozen and raspberry white chocolate bread pudding with the leftover Thanksgiving rolls. We enjoyed several meals from both of those. 


Enjoyed: I didn't leave my house (except to get my flu shot on Saturday morning) from the time I got home from work on Friday until I left to go to work this morning. It was glorious! 

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This Week I’m:  


Planning: Finishing up the decorating and making a big dent in the shopping. 


Thinking About: All of the things. What do people without ADHD and anxiety think about all day? 


Feeling: After we got our flu shots, both the Big Guy and I were entirely wiped out on Saturday and not a whole lot better yesterday. That double dose you get once you turn 65 kicked our butts! Fortunately, I'm feeling much more energetic today. 


Looking forward to: After 40 years in Omaha, we are finally going to see the community playhouse's annual production of A Christmas Carol this week. BG was really wanting to do something Christmasy this year. 


Question of the week: Do you like to attend holiday shows or concerts this time of year?